Age UK’s recent statistics show that over 1 million older people are spending Christmas day alone this year. More than 1 in 10 people (11%) will eat Christmas dinner alone, and 5% won’t see or speak to anyone the entire day.

It’s hard to be alone for the holidays, but there are ways to beat the loneliness. Here are a few of our suggestions on how to still make the most of the season.

Find local events

There are plenty of local events on at Christmas time to help communities connect and enjoy the holidays together. Local hubs, churches, libraries, pubs and more are often hosting festive events.

You could attend a Christmas dinner hosted at a local community hub, or a carol service at your local church. Or you could pop down to a nearby pub and see what events or live music are happening that day.

There are also charities designed to help communities come together to improve wellbeing and beat loneliness. Ramblers offers wellbeing walking groups, while Reengage have social groups for older folks looking to make new friends in their local area.

Chat online

If you’re able to reach family and friends online, video calls are a great way to stay connected when you’re apart. But for those who can’t, there are plenty of other ways to use our phones and the internet to connect with others.

Charities like The Silver Line (run by Age UK) offer support for people aged 55+ who are experiencing loneliness. You can give them a call, and they’ll happily chat with you, offering support and friendship in difficult times.

Whether you’re feeling down, or just want a quick chat, their lines are open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, so there’s always someone to talk to.

Make Christmas day special, just for you

Some of us aren’t up for going out on Christmas, or maybe don’t have the means to do so. But that doesn’t mean Christmas can’t still be a special day.

Why not make a delicious Christmas dinner for one (or order your favourite takeaway), or put on your favourite film with a nice glass of wine. Dust off some of the things tucked away for a ‘special occasion’ and use them to make the day a little more special.

Try to reframe the day not as one where you’re stuck by yourself, but as a day dedicated to you. Whether it’s some nice food, a good book or just a cozy pyjama day in bed, make the most of it and do something special for yourself.

Make Christmas special for someone else

Volunteering is a great way to give back to others at Christmas. Local food banks, shelters and more are always looking for volunteers, especially during the cold winter months.

By volunteering, you can chat with fellow volunteers and those you’re helping, all while making a real difference to people’s lives. Consider spending Christmas morning dishing out food at your local soup kitchen, spreading warmth and joy to those who need it most.

Not only will you be helping those around you, but you’ll boost your own mood by seeing the positive impact of your work. It’s a truly rewarding way to spend the holidays.

For more information on finding local volunteering opportunities, click here.

Let yourself feel lonely

Keeping busy can be a great way to distract yourself from feeling lonely, but it can also be good to stop and take time to feel these feelings too.

Loneliness is something a lot of us will experience this Christmas. It’s important that we allow ourselves to feel this loneliness, to take control of it so that we can lessen the power it has over us, and continue with our lives. After all, if you shine the light on darkness, it disappears.

Accept that you feel lonely, take time to understand and process these feelings. And, when you’re ready, choose to carry on.

You can find support and advice on dealing with loneliness here.

Aiden Winn

Aiden is an editorial and production staffer at Title Media. He’s constantly looking for opportunities to have fun and get creative, whether it be art, baking, storytelling… you name it!

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Forgetting our hobbies is an unfortunate and natural part of living life. We often face periods of stress and overwork so overwhelming that we don’t have enough time for what we used to love. By the time our calendars open up, we’re often settled into new patterns, and we forget about getting back into older habits.

There’s nothing wrong with finding yourself on this path, but there’s also nothing that says we need to stay on it.

With some hard work, it’s very possible to rediscover old hobbies, and there are few better ways to do that than by creating a hobby room. Make a special space for it. Whether this means remodelling an older room or building a new one, there’s a lot to be gained from this process, with serious advantages that pay off in the years and decades ahead.

Working on any kind of hobby rewards you with the feeling of a job well done. Whether it’s relaxing after exercising, thinking over the message of a book you just read, or admiring the work of a creative project, simply finishing it can be its own reward. Hobbies are also more than that, aiding in positive health outcomes.

According to research as mentioned at Sword Health, keeping mentally active can maintain cognitive health and delay age-related decline. We’ve all seen people in their eighties with minds just as sharp as they’ve ever been. And hobbies can play a major part in you achieving the same sharpness later in life.

Working on your home

Clearing a room or creating a dedicated space to pursue these activities can be a great way to get started on a new hobby. Not only this, if you do it right, remodelling or rebuilding a room into a hobby space comes with the added benefit of increasing the valuation of your home. These are highly desirable spaces, and the extra value they created is taken into account by estate agents, including online home sales services like We Buy Any Home.

This online system works by looking at the entirety of a home, including the work that you’ve done, and running calculations to determine value. Free cash offers are then returned within minutes and funds in as little as seven days. Any enhancements you’ve built can create appreciable payoffs if you do choose to sell. So, you could be investing in your home, as well as yourself.

Discovering or rediscovering a passion

Mental sharpness and financial rewards are already strong reasons to think about building hobby rooms, but just as important is the joy that it can bring into your life. Hobbies aren’t just distractions; they’re ways that we can express ourselves, our creativity, and grow into more developed people.

Hobbies can also be a useful way of connecting with loved ones or meeting new people. Online communal hobby group systems like Meetup can help with this process, letting you find like-minded individuals to share new or existing passions with.

The idea of creating a hobby room might be challenging, but it’s likely to be worth the effort. Investing in a hobby room and jumping back into the hobby space is an investment in your future, even if the first steps can be difficult ones. It’s all about taking a long-term view, and asking yourself where you’d like to be five years from now. And what skills and personal projects you’d like to have achieved when 2030 comes around.

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The teenage years can be challenging for children as they go through physical, emotional and social changes. As a parent or foster carer, being aware of potential mental health issues and offering support is vital for your teen’s wellbeing. Here is some guidance on recognising signs of struggle, and ways you can support your teen’s mental health.

Watch out for changes in behaviour

Mood swings and behavioural changes are common during the teenage years. However, look out for any extreme or prolonged shifts that could indicate an underlying issue. Signs may include:

• Loss of interest in activities they used to enjoy
• Pulling away from family and friends
• Significant decline in school performance
• Dramatic changes in eating and sleeping patterns
• Expressing feelings of worthlessness or guilt
• Self-harming behaviours

If you notice any combinations of these signs persisting for weeks, it may suggest your teen is struggling with their mental health.

Create opportunities for open communication

As teens desire more independence, they often share less with parents and carers. Making yourself available and having open conversations is key. Some tips:

• Ask open-ended questions and listen without judgement
• Validate their feelings by acknowledging their emotions
• Have regular one-on-one chats to pick up on any problems
• Do shared activities to put them at ease about opening up
• Reassure them you are there to help, not punish
• Gently probing with care and concern can help reveal issues they may be dealing with.

Seek professional help when needed

If signs persist and you suspect a mental health issue like depression or anxiety, consulting a GP is highly advisable. They can assess your teen and point you towards appropriate treatment options. If you have foster teens, discuss your concerns with your social worker. Depending on the severity, treatment options may include:

• Referral to a child and adolescent psychiatrist or psychologist
• Talking therapies like cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
• Antidepressants or anti-anxiety medications
• Family therapy sessions

Getting expert intervention early is important to prevent matters from escalating. Remember that mental illnesses are medical conditions, and there are effective treatments available through the NHS.

Support their treatment plan

If your teen is receiving professional mental health services, be sure to follow the prescribed treatment plan. You may need to:

• Monitor medications and any side effects
• Take them to therapy appointments
• Use recommended parenting strategies at home
• Communicate with the treatment team

Providing consistent support, encouragement and care at home will complement the treatment and aid your teen’s recovery.

Look after your own mental health

Caring for a teen with mental health struggles can be demanding on parents too. Make sure to:

• Take time for yourself to relax and recharge
• Share your feelings with family, friends or other parents in your situation
• Seek counselling if you are feeling overwhelmed
• Connect with support groups related to your teen’s condition

If you like the idea of supporting a foster teenager, search for a fostering agency near me. There are lots of young adults in need of caring families to help them navigate the teenage years.

Looking after your own emotional health enables you to be fully available to support your teen. By spotting signs early, getting professional help and offering nurturing support, you can make a real difference in guiding your teen through these difficult years.

The information in this article is for general support only and should not be considered medical advice. Always seek help from a mental health professional if you’re worried about your child.

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If you thought we’d come a long way since burning bras, think again. A new survey commissioned by the Women’s Institute (WI) reveals that depressingly, nearly two-thirds of adults (64%) in the UK believe misogyny is a significant issue, with almost a third considering it a really serious problem.

Conducted by Opinium ahead of International Women’s Day 2025, the poll underscores the everyday challenges women face, highlighting a troubling reality that women, particularly younger ones, experience misogyny in deeply personal and practical ways.

The personal impact on women’s lives

The survey found that women aged 18-34 are particularly affected by misogyny, sadly often adjusting their daily behaviour to enhance their sense of safety. In the past year:

• 41% of young women avoided eye contact or limited interactions with strangers.
• 37% shared their live location with friends or family while travelling alone.
• 42% pretended to be on a phone call when walking by themselves.
• 27% clutched a bunch of keys between their fingers as a makeshift weapon.

By contrast, men in the same age group reported far lower rates of similar behaviours: only 14% used a phone as a prop, 18% shared their location, and just 10% carried keys in their fist.

Melissa Green, CEO of the WI, emphasized the need for urgent action. “Our polling makes for depressing reading at a time when women and girls’ rights are being challenged on every front.

“For women to feel that the UK is a far less safe place for them is unacceptable and deeply concerning – and needs to be tackled through social prevention, as well as political deterrence, and in allyship with men.”

Read more: Late diagnoses of ADHD and autism in women – the hidden cost

A worsening trend?

The WI’s findings align with last year’s Girls’ Attitudes report from Girl Guiding, which revealed that sexism (used interchangeably with misogyny in their report) has risen in the last ten years. In that survey:

• 47% of 11-21-year-olds feel less safe because of sexism and misogyny, a significant rise from 17% 10 years ago.
• 69% believed they were expected to act differently because of their gender.

While it is difficult to compare directly across years, these statistics suggest that concerns over misogyny are not improving but may be intensifying. If more women are adapting their behaviour out of fear and reporting a decline in their sense of safety, the issue requires urgent social and legislative attention.

Challenging misogyny: steps forward

It’s not all bad news. Despite the alarming figures, the survey also found that adults are taking action to challenge misogyny in their daily interactions:

• 37% of adults have had conversations about gender equality with men.
• 17% have walked a female friend to her car or home to ensure her safety.
• 16% have refused to participate in misogynistic conversations.
• 13% have called out sexist language in conversations.
• 8% have intervened when witnessing a woman being harassed.

Encouragingly, the proportion of men and women challenging misogyny is relatively balanced (28% of men vs. 31% of women), suggesting a growing awareness across genders. However, there is still much work to be done.

How to combat misogyny

Tackling misogyny requires collective effort from individuals, communities, and policymakers. Here are some ways everyone can help challenge and reduce its impact:

• Call out sexist behaviour. If you hear misogynistic jokes or comments, challenge them.
• Listen to women’s experiences. Understanding their concerns fosters empathy and action.
• Be an active witness. Intervene safely when witnessing harassment.
• Support gender equality initiatives. Advocate for policies and practices that promote fairness.
• Educate yourself and others. Learn about misogyny’s impact and encourage discussions in your circles.
• Speak up when safe to do so. Challenge misogynistic behaviour when possible.
• Support other women. Offer solidarity and assistance to those experiencing misogyny.
• Educate young people. Encourage conversations about gender equality from an early age.
• Engage in activism. Support or join movements advocating for women’s rights.
• Encourage male allies. Help men understand how they can contribute to positive change.

The WI’s report paints a concerning picture of how misogyny continues to shape the everyday experiences of women in Britain. However, the growing willingness to challenge it signals hope for a future where gender equality becomes the norm rather than the exception.

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‘Tis the season where people make oft-ridiculous commitments to self-improvement. Yes, I’m talking about the good old new year resolutions. I can see people left, right, and centre vowing to do more gym, eat better, do Dry January – you know the drill. I’ve decided to take a different tack this year. I don’t know about anyone else, but my 2024 has been a bit shit. More than a bit. So instead of heaping yet more pressure on myself to be better, and do better, I’m going to head in the opposite direction. It’s time for the fuck-it list.

I think we’re all big enough and ugly enough now to let go of the concept that having juvenile fun in your middle years is a bad idea

We talk a lot about the midlife ‘coming of age’ here at Silver. Those wonderful, pivotal moments that grace your middle age that used to be called a midlife crisis. I think we’re all big enough and ugly enough now to let go of the concept that having juvenile fun in your middle years is a bad idea. Actually, it’s the best time of your life, in many ways.

Many of the items on the fuck-it list come with the wisdom that age brings you. The joy of letting stuff go. Of not giving a monkey’s what people think of you; living in a permanent state of ‘wearing purple’, if you will.

I’ve been doing a lot of these things already, really. But for posterity, and perhaps to inspire other readers to go “fuck it, I’m not doing that anymore either,” here’s my list.

Dry January

Straight into the sea with this. As if January wasn’t grim enough already.

Not listening to my gut

Ooo a couple of times this year I’ve ignored my gut – one of which was an EXTRAORDINARY tale, which I’ll tell separately another time. But I should have known better, on both counts. I knew what was going on didn’t feel right. Less impulsivity and more listening to my gut instinct.

Poncy food, poor food, stupid diets

Pub Sunday roasts. They genuinely are NEVER as good as the homemade ones. Also restaurants with tiny portions, foams or whispers of things. Didn’t we have enough of this nonsense in the ’80s? No wonder people do cocaine at restaurants. They’d be starving otherwise.

Also faddy diets, which see a lot of action in January. I mean, I’d like to be less fat, but I do also love to eat and drink. So as long as my health isn’t too shabby, let’s eat, drink, and be merry. Especially in January.

Endless TV shows or series

Good grief, Dr Who. I watched the very underwhelming Christmas special and was appalled by its mediocrity. It’s not even scary anymore. Well, not in the way I was hoping for. Also box sets, or really long things – I just never finish them, so I should probably stop trying. Breaking Bad; saw about three episodes. Ripley with Andrew Scott; I literally thought I was going to die of boredom. And I LOVE Andrew Scott. AND Highsmith.

Chasing material things

I never had myself down as someone who was bothered about money, but it turns out I am. I like nice things, and I like to be successful. But over the past few years, the pursuit of these things hasn’t always made me wildly happy – or healthy. If I’m making any kind of resolution this year, it’s to start doing more of the stuff I love, and less of the stuff that is just a means to an end.

I’m not as financially rich as I’d like, but there are more important things in life. I’ve learned that the hard way over the past few years, as people who I loved deeply have died. None of that material stuff matters. It really doesn’t. That thing you hear about people on their deathbeds never saying they wished they’d worked harder? Yeah.

Settling

Settling on work I don’t want to do, giving in to clients’ demands, settling on dates, agreeing to things I don’t like or don’t want. For someone with a big opinion of herself, I can be a terrible people pleaser. I’ve noticed it’s worst when I’m feeling low, so. Keeping an eye out for that.

Letting PRs overrun my inbox

A job-specific fuck-it here, but one I suspect many other editors and journalists will relate to. Blocking/unsubscribing from lazy ‘spray and pray’ PRs who send me press releases that aren’t relevant. Or those who ‘circle back’ the same fucking release to bump it to the top of my inbox, often more than once. If it was interesting in the first place, we’d have picked it up. Leave me the hell alone. My inbox gives me way too much anxiety and this is a big part of the problem.

Heels, bras, tight clothing, things I want to rip off my body in a rage

I’m absolutely done with this shit. I don’t think this is even an ageing thing – we all got used to working in our pyjamas over lockdown, right? I don’t want to wear proper clothes ever again. I’ve also got piles of clothes I never wear – jeans from the ’90s I’ll never get into again, skimpy tops that would show more underboob than midriff these days…

Heels have mentally been the hardest thing to say goodbye to, and I love the way they make my legs look. But I’m so out of practice wearing them, it’s TORTURE to put them on for any length of time. So off with tight things, pinchy things, anything that makes me itch, or struggle to breathe, or walk, hurts my knees or back, makes me end up with red creases in my skin, or blisters… really when you say it like that, it sounds utterly insane, doesn’t it.

Letting stuff go

Life is short, and this is an ongoing practice for me, but more letting go of ‘stuff’. Including the grief around what I might have achieved if I’d had an earlier ADHD diagnosis. That’s been a biggie.

Also in this bracket is forgiving people who have wronged me, without expecting the same in return. The freedom that forgiveness brings is utterly lifechanging. I don’t really hold grudges, but it’s hard not to feel aggrieved about some things that happened in the past. I’m choosing to let those go.

And in the spirit of letting go of things that I feel bad about myself, I’m making amends where I can. I’m also forgiving myself for stupid shit I’ve done in the past. That was then, and this is now. Fuck looking backwards.

Fuck Facebook, and fuck the news on social media

Having looked at the amount of time I spent on it on a daily basis, I’ve deleted the Facebook app off my phone. The fact that I felt uncomfortable doing that, like a junky, tells me all I need to know. Social media generally is also the hotbed for comparison, which truly is the thief of joy. I compare myself and my work with others, and it steals all my joy, makes me feel useless and unsuccessful. Enough of that.

As for the news – I like to know what’s going on in the world, but the endless ‘news’ in social feeds absolutely clutters my head, and makes me depressed a lot of the time. So, a much more measured approach to all this for me this year.

Apologising for who I am

Or diminishing my own worth. Trying to fit in, or be something that I’m not. I do a fair bit of masking, as someone with ADHD, and I’m fed up with it. It’s exhausting trying to be ‘normal’. I’ve found that if I’m honest with my friends, they’re absolutely fine with the person I really am. As the saying goes, ‘those that mind don’t matter, and those that matter don’t mind.’ Take me with my quirks and all.

Going out in the evening

I absolutely LOVE a daytime adventure – lunches, outings, seeing friends. But I like to take to my boudoir early these days, and evening events are taxing. Jamie Lee Curtis, calling out for daytime gigs and parties, once said, “Nothing good happens for me after 9pm” and I hear that. I used to like starting my nights around then, but these days I like them to finish right about there. Then I can get a good night’s kip, sleep off the booze, and come up smiling in the morning.

Dating apps

‘Nuff said. I look occasionally, and am terminally depressed by them. Not going to look anymore, la la la etc.

Sam Harrington-Lowe

Sam is Silver’s founder and editor-in-chief. She’s largely responsible for organising all the things, but still finds time to do the odd bit of writing. Not enough though. Send help.

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At a time when many look forward to gathering with family and friends, the prospect of ‘Christmas for one’ can seem daunting. So, what can you do if you’re alone at Christmas?

Firstly, not everyone hates being alone at Christmas, so this article is aimed more at people who are on their tod, for whatever reason, and don’t really want to be. And it’s hard, knowing all the homes around you are celebrating with family, and noise, and the endless cooking, and arguing… ahem. But whether you’ve chosen to spend Christmas looking after number one, or have found yourself at a festive loose end, here’s how to make the most of the season in a single serving.

Eat what you like

Let’s face it, it’s probably not worth investing in an enormous Christmas turkey if you’re dining alone, but spending Christmas dinner solo doesn’t mean you have to do without. Take a trip to the shops to stock up on festive fayre in smaller portions and take the time to cook up something special for yourself on the day. Hotly recommended if you cannot be bothered to cook, is M&S pre-prepared food, so you can treat yourself without any bother. After all, you’re worth it.

Break up your day

Christmas Day with family often has a regimented structure to it. Presents are unwrapped in the morning, possibly a walk or carol concert. Lunch dominates the day. For those who like to indulge, there’s the King’s Speech. Perhaps other relatives or friends pop in. Then it’s bums on the couch for a Christmas film-fest.

While you may not have to work around specific timings, it makes sense to structure your day… your way. Think about creating bite-sized pieces – each one filled with something you enjoy, from a relaxing bath to your favourite film, from walking the dog to making that phone call.

The best part? You don’t have to check anyone else’s schedule.

Avoid comparisons

Anyone who’s seen a Christmas advert or sentimental film would be forgiven for thinking that all families gather together for laughter-filled feasts and sentimental cuddles come Christmas day. But let’s face it, the fantasy doesn’t live up to the reality for many of us.

If you’re feeling a little blue, imagining others basking in the heart of their family or having a blast with friends, remind yourself that around 50% of Brits admit to having an argument during the festive season. Divorce rates also increase in December and January. And according to a survey, the average spend on each child at Christmas is a whopping £420.

Reda more: Alcoholism and the chaos it causes at Christmas

Do whatever you like!

Christmas with a group often means compromise: whether its travelling to a venue, doing the cooking, buying, working out timings… people need to work around each other to create the ‘best fit’ scenario.

But if you’re spending Christmas on your own, you can do exactly what you want. This might mean getting out and volunteering, staying in and indulging, popping into friends in the evening, or attending events of your choosing. And if you just want to stay in your onesie and watch telly all day while drinking Baileys and eating M&S ready meals, do it.

“Volunteering makes my Christmas”

Anne Iarchy, 52, Barnet, Coeliac and Gluten Free Coach

Anne Iarchy

I don’t have any immediate family, and many of my friends live abroad or have commitments over Christmas, so for the last few years I’ve found myself alone on the day itself. Rather than stay in, I volunteer with my local Rotary Club, serving Christmas dinner to elderly people in the community.

It’s a fabulous event: everyone wears a Christmas jumper, there’s live piano music, wine, sherry and good cheer. And as well as having company on the day as a result, I get a great buzz from knowing that I’ve made a difference to others.

After hours, I’m at home and I tend to spend my evening chilling out. Last year, I roasted a leg of lamb in the slow cooker to enjoy for my dinner. Christmassing alone wasn’t my first choice, but now it’s something I really look forward to.

Florence Archery, 50, London, Founder of ‘Yoga Retreats and More’

Fiona Archery, photo: Joanne Withers Photography

I’ve spent several Christmases alone over the years. I’m divorced and my son, 17, sometimes spends Christmas with his father. As I’m originally from France, I don’t have any family in the UK. But I’ve learned to appreciate a different sort of Christmas to the one you see in the commercials. I appreciate the stillness: I live in London, but the streets are empty, there is less traffic. The city is lit up and I fall in love with it all over again.

I spend my day being Number 1, make myself something nice to eat, watch TV and take my ‘fur kids’ for a walk along the river. There’s a real sense of freedom from expectations.

This year, I’m going to be having lunch with two friends and my son will probably pop in. Both of my friends would have been alone otherwise. It will be nice to come together to have our own kind of Christmas. Next year, I’m running a retreat at Christmas time for others who might otherwise be alone and I’m really looking forward to it.

Repositioning Christmas for one

Being faced with Christmas Day alone can be an unhappy prospect. You might feel angry or resentful too. Perhaps you’re bereaved and absolutely dreading it.

Rather than thinking of a solo Christmas as a lonely time, if you are going to be alone, try to reposition it – the opportunity to spend Christmas the way you want. ‘You can embrace quiet, and enjoy the day as you wish,’ says Florence.

If you’d rather be occupied, charities such as Crisis at Christmas are always looking for volunteers. Or consider inviting a friend round. There will be other people in the same situation as you. ‘Don’t wait to be invited, be the one to make it happen,’ advises Florence. ‘Although avoid talking about your solo Christmas to people you’d rather not spend too much time with – you might end up with an invitation!’

Some decide to take solo holidays to get some winter sun, or join in on a winter retreat. ‘Getting the summer dresses out of the wardrobe whilst it’s really cold in the UK is very satisfying.’

Gillian Harvey

Gillian is a freelance journalist and author of best-selling novels including The Bordeaux Book Club and A Year at the French Farmhouse. Having spent 14 years living in France, she now lives in Norfolk.

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If you’re rushing around at the last minute, then the chances are good that you’ll end up feeling stressed about it. So, how can we avoid this? Let’s run through a few essential tips for a stress free Christmas.

Plan ahead for your festive feast

The most important part of Christmas Day is the dinner itself. But if you’re hosting, the dinner can also be the biggest source of stress. You can limit the stress by preparing your trimmings the day before. Honey-roasted parsnips, potatoes and vegetables can be done in advance. If you’re chopping carrots on Christmas morning, then you’ll lack the time and attention to devote to other tasks.

Then there’s the turkey itself. To save time, you can always pre-order meat for Christmas. The quality you enjoy might be much higher as a result!

Streamline your Christmas gift shopping

The earlier you have your gifts bought and ready, the easier things will be. Do your shopping online in order to avoid the rush (and disappointment) that comes from wandering around a crowded shopping centre. Often, getting a few ideas down in advance can reduce the stress of having to think of something at the last minute.

Read more: The ultimate Christmas market guide

Simplify your Christmas decorations

Christmas decorations are essential if you want to set the right vibe around the house, and get everyone into the spirit of the occasion. However, if you feel under pressure to get the décor exactly right, you can end up feeling stressed about it. It’s therefore a good idea to look for minimalist ideas that don’t require much effort.

Concentrate your efforts in the places where they’ll be noticed. The tree, dining table, and entranceway might all make a big difference. The lighting you choose is pivotal.

In certain cases, you might judge that it’s worth spending some extra time and effort on securing a natural element or two, like the tree itself, or the wreath on your front door. However, be aware that these elements will often require extra care and attention.

An artificial Christmas tree might not have quite the same appeal and fragrance as the real thing, but you can easily stow it away in a box after Christmas is over and done with.

If you want to make your decorations yourself, then you’ll need to set aside the time necessary to get the job done well. This might mean reserving a given weekday evening for a crafts session with the family.

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You’re not alone. Many people have found themselves on a downward spiral caused by negative thoughts processes that eventually leave them worried and drained.

While negative thoughts and feelings can be difficult to control, there are active steps to help you deal with them, such as identifying how they began and the effects on you. They could also stem from health issues, in which case quality products from Bellysweep can help clear and refresh your gut.

This article explores five ways to help you stop negative thoughts and thrive.

#1 Identity the triggers

Negative thoughts can take hold in your mind, but there’s always a starting point. The first step in stopping them is finding out what triggers them. Many people have recorded scenarios that trigger negative thoughts in their lives, such as financial responsibilities, illnesses, poor work performance, challenging relationships, etc.

These triggers can encourage negative thoughts, so identify what keeps you down and work on stopping it. Instead of soaking up negative thoughts, ask yourself what benefits they bring instead of draining your life. Make a conscious decision to stop them immediately when they pop up.

#2 Eat healthy meals

Your diet plays a huge role in your mental health. Also, research suggests that there’s a close connection between a poor diet and anxiety. When busy, stressed, or feeling low, many people immediately make the wrong choice of meals and beverages to boost energy or get over the negative feelings.

Eating sugary foods and junk food is detrimental to your health. Instead, eat healthy meals with vital nutrients like omega-3 fatty acids, dark leafy greens, nuts, legumes, and lentils. A healthy diet will boost your mood and gut and improve your mental health.

#3 Remain mindful

Staying mindful of yourself, your thoughts, and everything around you can help you defeat negative thoughts. Focus on the moment, leaving thoughts of the past and future where they belong.

Consciously and consistently practice mindfulness, even for a short time each day. Doing so will give your brain a space to rest in the present, slowing down the momentum of anxious thoughts. You’ll become good at it with enough practice, making it part of your nature.

#4 Regular exercise

Exercise has several amazing benefits for the body, especially your brain, which is host to those negative thoughts you want to stop. Working out enables your brain to release chemicals like serotonin and dopamine. These are “feel-good” chemicals that improve your mood and reduce stress.

Walking a small distance can improve your mood and help you deal with anxious thoughts and stress. It will become a habit when you have fun and positive results from exercising regularly.

Read more: what exactly are the health benefits of cold water swimming?

#5 Get enough sleep

With negative thoughts and feelings, anxiety could arise, leading to sleep problems like insomnia. Get adequate rest and sleep so your brain has enough time to rest and recuperate. Sleep could be the best way to turn those thoughts off if you’re worrying so much.

You can get off your tech gadgets an hour or two before bedtime, avoid alcohol and caffeine, and maintain a consistent sleeping schedule. Sleep is ultimately a reset for your body and mind. Ensure your body gets enough to refresh your mindset.

Staying positive

These are some of the best ways to get your life back on track and stop those negative thoughts from ruining your chances of enjoying life. Negative thoughts will always occur, but it’s up to you to choose positivity by getting better sleep, eating healthy diets, regular exercise, and practicing mindfulness.

Identifying the genesis of the negative thoughts will help you avoid them. Besides, you can seek professional help when you can’t grasp such thoughts or effectively apply these steps.

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This National Fitness Day, Channelle Hylton-Taylor, Activities Coordinator at Bupa Care Services , shares tips for anyone interested in getting more activity back into their lives, following recent online search increases. If you want to get fit again and you’re over 50, brilliant. But a few words of advice first.

In the last three months, more people have been turning to Google to find out ways to safely reintroduce movement and fitness as we mature. Searches are 26 times higher in August than they were any other month this year.

Staying active in as we age can have a range of benefits for your body and mind. When it’s done right, it can help you ward off aches and pains, not to mention boost your mental health. And yes, help future you to maintain physical independence as things inevitably head south.

5 tips to for getting back into fitness

Build things up slowly

If it’s been a while since you had a regular routine, it’s really important to build things up slowly to protect your body and really feel the benefits. The long-term goal is to aim for 150 minutes of moderate intensity aerobic exercise, every week.

If you’re currently not very active, take it easy with whatever activity you choose, and gradually increase how much you do of it over time. Moderate aerobic exercise is moving in a way that makes your breathing and heart rate faster, making you feel warmer, but it’s not vigorous enough to mean that you can’t still hold a conversation.

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Choose aerobic exercises that you enjoy

It’s easier to make exercise a habit if you find something that you enjoy. Everyone is different, so experiment with a few different movements to see which one you get the most from. Here are some ideas to get you started:

• Brisk walking – this could be around your home or garden, or around the block. It may be helpful to listen to an audiobook or some music to motivate you.
• Gardening – activities sweeping can give you a great workout, all while making your garden look more appealing!
• Swimming – this is a great low impact exercise, that’s really handy for those with hip or knee pain.
• Dancing – put on your favourite tunes and have a boogie round the house, or you could even join a dance class.
• Cycling – why not incorporate it into your lifestyle by getting on a bike and heading to the shops?
• ‘Walking’ sports like football or netball – look out for local clubs to feel the social benefit, too.

Don’t forget strengthening exercises

Along with aerobic exercise, it’s important to maintain your bone and muscle strength. Increased muscle tone will not only give your bodywork a bit more support, you’ll also burn calories more efficiently.

Bone and muscle strength is something that’s naturally lost with age. You should aim to do strength exercises on at least two days every week. But again, build this up slowly to give your muscles time to adjust and build.

You can incorporate strengthening exercises into your daily life by challenging yourself, or by introducing a new activity – and maybe even having some fun with it. Here are some ideas:

• Do some squats as you wait for the kettle to boil or you’re making dinner.
• Do some digging in the garden – this encourages you to use your weight against you for results.
• Water aerobics – these low-impact classes can help you maintain and gain muscle mass and strength.
• Pilates, tai chi, yoga – balance exercises are really important, particularly for core strength.
• Life weights at the gym – speak to an instructor for advice on form and limits.

Speak to a health professional if you’re concerned

If you’re worried about starting exercising – it could be that you have a health condition, or you’ve been recovering from an illness – that shouldn’t stop you from exercising completely. In some cases, exercise may help you to get better.

Know when to stop

If you’re getting enjoyment from exercise, it may be tempting to go all-in. However, if you find you have aches, pains, or dizziness when you exercise, that’s your body’s way of telling you that you may have gone a little too hard. So ease it back and build things up more slowly.

Speak to a GP straight away if you get any chest pain, light-headedness, or breathing difficulties when you exercise. Stop exercising until you speak to a health professional.

Generally speaking, start slow, find something you love doing, and you can build your fitness up slowly, surely and with confidence.

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From one heartache to the next

This time two years ago I ended my marriage of 15 years, a week before my birthday. My husband and I lived in our apartment for another 12 months, finishing the renovations so it could go up for sale. I found a much smaller place in St Leonard’s on Sea, just five miles away, while my ex was planning to move back to his native France.

Meanwhile I was in relationship with a man I was besotted with. A man who would go on to repeatedly ghost me then leave me for another woman.

Fast-forward a year and we were finally due to exchange contracts on our flat. Only for the buyer to pull out at the last moment. I had to pay the fees for the flat I could no longer buy, along with the fees for the one we hadn’t sold. I had no work at the time, so it was a huge blow, both financially and emotionally.

It’s fair to say that life was overwhelming for both of us.

Gautier’s father had died unexpectedly during COVID and his mother had recently been diagnosed with cancer, and was undergoing brutal treatment with a bleak prognosis. We were both devastated, obviously him more than me. But I too was so stressed I was worried that I’d end up with cancer.

Guess what?

The unthinkable

Gautier had just left for France when I found a weird cocktail sausage-shaped swelling in my left breast whilst maneuvering myself into a new bikini. I was sent for a mammogram, scan and biopsies immediately after the consultant had examined me, and had a lumpectomy six weeks later.

Friends helped out post-surgery, but there was nobody to make me a cup of tea, give me a hug, do housework and make dinner. Each night I went to bed exhausted, scared and alone. I struggled physically and mentally for months, especially after radiotherapy. I was stuck in a flat I couldn’t sell, so I literally couldn’t move on with my life. And I found it hard to ask for help, so I didn’t.

I desperately needed a break before I broke.

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A change of scenery – the road to recovery

An all-inclusive hotel in Egypt’s Sharm-el-Sheik wouldn’t have been my first choice of destination. I was thinking more of Madeira or Menorca. However, a deal popped up for the Iberotel Redsina and the word ‘snorkeling’ jumped out at me.

I went bananas and booked a ‘swim-up’ room instead of the cheapest room, which is what the old me had always done. The sea appeared to be the same shade of blue as Paul Newman’s eyes. My body needed this like it needed oxygen.

Because it was summer and off-season – high season being spring or late autumn/winter – the resort was almost empty. I arrived at night, ordered room service and jumped straight in the pool outside my room. I swam under the soft white lights with no interruptions except the faint rustling of palm tree leaves as they swayed in the breeze.

The grounds are beautiful

There’s nothing but polite staff, beautiful flowers and palm trees everywhere you go. I felt very relaxed despite the 45-degree heat doing its best to floor me.

I’d sit cross-legged in the clear shallows playing with passing fish and little things that were like a cross between starfish and tarantulas (we held hands/tentacles)

The 60-minute deep tissue massage I treated myself to was the best I’d ever had, and I left the spa with some gorgeous Egyptian skincare products. The beach was two minutes’ walk from my room; the deep water accessed by a long jetty. I was in heaven the moment I jumped into the water.

In the main restaurant, giddy from such a vast choice of food from so many different cultures, I chose Egyptian (obvs). Dishes were beautifully cooked and bursting with flavour. I ate grilled red mullet and sardines, zesty tabbouleh, stuffed aubergines, perfectly dainty French-inspired patisserie, and about 87 different breads.

“Hello Miss Juliette, would you like to do yoga and Pilates each morning, outside in the shade?” Er, yes. After that I’d sit cross-legged in the clear shallows playing with passing fish and little things that were like a cross between starfish and tarantulas (we held hands/tentacles).

Facing phobias

I snorkeled for the first time. This was a huge deal since I have three lifelong phobias: anything covering my face, eels and the other things like eels beginning with ‘s’, and deep water. I had two panic attacks then went back in minus the snorkel, waving to beautiful blue and yellow fish as I swam along the coral. Still in panic mode, though, since I was in 40ft deep water and THERE MIGHT BE AN EEL. I don’t do things by halves.

At the zen pool I could sketch or read in peace while sipping ice-cold Sakara (Egyptian beer) with lemon. I dressed up for dinner each night and was happy to eat alone while I mopped my sweaty brow, insisting on eating outside – “I’m on holiday!” – rather than in the air-conditioned interior.

Four days later, despite a horrible flight, I came back a better, calmer version of myself. I’d been looked after, and I’d relished it. I wouldn’t recommend waiting until you get cancer to allow yourself that. But for me, I guess it was better late than never. Do go in October, though, won’t you?

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Juliette Wills

Juliette writes about football, F1, fashion, health and interiors for national magazines and newspapers. She’s also Bexhill’s new Town Crier (true story!), runs a pet sitting sideline and heads up her own creative agency. If she’s not at home she’s in the sea

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