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					<description><![CDATA[<p>How queer film has challenged norms, shaped culture, and redefined representation on screen Cinema has long been a powerful medium for telling human stories, offering audiences a mirror to society’s struggles, triumphs, and transformations. For queer communities, film has been both a battleground and a stage. It reflects the shifting perceptions of sexuality, gender identity, and the fight for visibility. The history of queer representation in cinema reveals much about cultural attitudes toward sexuality, the evolution of artistic expression, and the ongoing need for inclusion. From early silent films to modern blockbusters, queer stories have emerged in varied forms, each adding a layer of meaning to how these narratives are understood. This exploration traces how queer lives have been portrayed, the barriers filmmakers have faced, and how representation has changed over the decades. Hidden beginnings in early cinema In the earliest days of film, queer identities were rarely portrayed openly. Silent films occasionally hinted at same-sex attraction through subtle gestures or coded imagery. Filmmakers faced strict social restrictions and censorship laws, which meant queer themes were often veiled. Characters were sometimes presented as eccentric or villainous, reflecting societal prejudices rather than authentic lived experiences. For instance, early horror and noir [...]</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2>How queer film has challenged norms, shaped culture, and redefined representation on screen</h2>
<p>Cinema has long been a powerful medium for telling human stories, offering audiences a mirror to society’s struggles, triumphs, and transformations. For queer communities, film has been both a battleground and a stage. It reflects the shifting perceptions of sexuality, gender identity, and the fight for visibility.</p>
<p>The history of queer representation in cinema reveals much about cultural attitudes toward sexuality, the evolution of artistic expression, and the ongoing need for inclusion.</p>
<p>From early silent films to modern blockbusters, queer stories have emerged in varied forms, each adding a layer of meaning to how these narratives are understood. This exploration traces how queer lives have been portrayed, the barriers filmmakers have faced, and how representation has changed over the decades.</p>
<h3>Hidden beginnings in early cinema</h3>
<p>In the earliest days of film, queer identities were rarely portrayed openly. Silent films occasionally hinted at same-sex attraction through subtle gestures or coded imagery. Filmmakers faced strict social restrictions and censorship laws, which meant queer themes were often veiled. Characters were sometimes presented as eccentric or villainous, reflecting societal prejudices rather than authentic lived experiences.</p>
<p>For instance, early horror and noir genres occasionally used queer-coded villains as a way to signal danger or moral ambiguity. A tactic that reinforced stereotypes rather than genuine representation. These portrayals reveal that queer existence was visible, but only in hidden, distorted forms. These coded narratives laid the groundwork for both creative resistance and the challenges that lay ahead for queer filmmakers.</p>
<h3>The rise of queer narratives in mid-20th Century</h3>
<p>As cinema moved into the mid-20th century, queer themes began to gain more visibility, though still under heavy constraints. The Motion Picture Production Code in the United States, for example,  enforced strict guidelines that prohibited explicit discussion of homosexuality.</p>
<p>Filmmakers responded with subtext, symbolism, and coded references, allowing queer viewers to find meaning where mainstream audiences might not recognise it.</p>
<p>International cinema, especially in Europe, began to push boundaries earlier. Directors like Rainer Werner Fassbinder and Jean Cocteau explored queer themes more openly, creating a niche for queer cinema that was both daring and poetic. These films challenged the perception that queer stories could not belong to art or mainstream narratives, planting seeds for later cultural shifts.</p>
<p><a href="https://silvermagazine.co.uk/pride-the-kickass-famous-lgbtq-icons-through-history" target="_blank" rel="noopener"><span style="color: #c62e65;"><em><strong>Read more: The groundbreaking LGBTQ+ icons throughout history&#8230;</strong></em></span></a></p>
<h3>Breaking barriers: The 1980s and 1990s</h3>
<p>The 1980s and 1990s marked a turning point in queer cinema, driven by activism and social change. The HIV/AIDS crisis brought queer issues into urgent public discourse, influencing how queer lives were represented in film. Filmmakers began telling stories that centred queer experiences with greater honesty and urgency.</p>
<p>Independent cinema flourished during this period, offering platforms for authentic queer voices. Films such as <em>Paris Is Burning</em> and <em>My Own Private Idaho</em> explored queer identity with emotional depth and complexity. This era marked a significant expansion of narratives beyond stereotypes, allowing queer cinema to examine themes of love, loss, identity, and resilience with nuance.</p>
<h3>Shifting perspectives on LGBTQ+ representation</h3>
<p>The discussion of queer representation in film today is more prominent than ever, reflecting both progress and ongoing challenges. Also, <a href="https://octaneseating.com/blog/lgbtq-film-history" target="_blank" rel="noopener">LGBTQ+ representation in film</a> is no longer confined to niche art houses; it has expanded into mainstream cinema and television. There is greater visibility of queer characters in diverse roles. This ranges from romantic leads to multifaceted protagonists in genres such as drama, comedy, fantasy, and science fiction. Yet representation still faces obstacles. Issues of tokenism, stereotyping, and underrepresentation remain prevalent.</p>
<p>Authentic representation requires more than the inclusion of queer characters. It demands depth, complexity, and respect for lived experience. The presence of queer filmmakers and storytellers is essential to achieving this, as they bring lived insight that shapes narratives beyond surface-level portrayals.</p>
<h3>Contemporary queer storytelling</h3>
<p>In the last decade, <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2023/08/28/arts/music/queer-club-fliers-getting-in-book.html" target="_blank" rel="noopener">queer</a> storytelling in film has become increasingly varied and bold. Advances in technology, greater access to filmmaking platforms, and evolving social attitudes have opened new spaces for queer narratives. Streaming services have broadened opportunities for queer filmmakers, allowing stories to reach global audiences without relying solely on traditional distribution channels.</p>
<p>Films such as <em>Portrait of a Lady on Fire</em>, <em>Moonlight</em>, and <em>The Half of It</em> have achieved critical acclaim, not only for their artistry but also for their nuanced portrayals of queer lives. These stories challenge viewers to move beyond assumptions and engage with queer identity as a complex, universal human experience.</p>
<p>Today’s queer cinema is not confined to representation alone; it is actively shaping culture and influencing how society perceives diversity.</p>
<h3>Challenges and future directions</h3>
<p>While queer stories in film have achieved remarkable progress, there remains significant challenges to overcome. Many queer filmmakers face barriers such as funding shortages, restrictive industry gatekeeping, and cultural censorship in different parts of the world, which can limit the scope and authenticity of storytelling.</p>
<p>Representation still often leans toward certain narratives, frequently prioritising stories that fit mainstream expectations while sidelining more diverse voices. This creates a gap where intersectional experiences, such as those of queer people of colour, trans individuals, disabled queer people, and queer voices from non-Western cultures, may remain underrepresented.</p>
<p>Another challenge lies in avoiding tokenism, where queer characters exist only as symbols rather than fully developed individuals, which risks reducing representation to mere visibility rather than meaningful storytelling. Expanding the scope of queer storytelling means embracing diversity in all its forms, across genres, perspectives, and cultural contexts. This requires both structural change within the industry and deliberate creative risk-taking from filmmakers willing to challenge norms.</p>
<h3>Audience support also plays a role…</h3>
<p>As demand for inclusive and authentic stories can push studios and producers to take chances on narratives that have historically been ignored. The future of queer cinema depends on building spaces where a wider range of queer voices can be heard and respected, shaping a richer, more inclusive cinematic world where every story has the possibility of being told.</p>
<p>Queer narratives have travelled far from their early coded origins, evolving into a rich and complex realm of storytelling that reflects both progress and the struggles that remain. The history of queer representation in film is a chronicle of resilience, creativity, and the fight for visibility.</p>
<p>As society continues to evolve, queer cinema will remain a vital part of cultural conversation, illuminating identities and experiences that deserve to be seen and understood. The journey of queer stories in film history is ongoing, and every new film adds a chapter to this unfolding narrative of inclusion, resistance, and transformation.</p>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Author Paul Burston reflects on how Polari, a coded language with a colourful history, is still having an influence on LGBTQ culture today What is Polari? Sometimes spelled ‘palare’ from the Italian ‘to talk’, it&#8217;s a form of slang most commonly associated with gay men, used more widely during the days when male homosexuality was against the law. The language itself has diverse origins – a combination of Italian and Romantic roots, Romany, backslang (saying things backwards), Yiddish, Cockney, and other street and sailor slang, mostly from London. The point of Polari was, largely, to avoid the law knowing what the hell you were talking about The point of Polari was, largely, to avoid the law knowing what the hell you were talking about or getting up to. And so to keep ahead of intelligence, the language was a constantly evolving thing, staying one step ahead. Many of the words have made their way into common parlance. In 2021, Polari lives on as the inspiration for literary events and awards where the focus is very much on inclusivity. Polari is still relevant and part of our history. Although gay rights have come far in the UK, there is still a [...]</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2>Author Paul Burston reflects on how Polari, a coded language with a colourful history, is still having an influence on LGBTQ culture today</h2>
<p>What is Polari? Sometimes spelled ‘palare’ from the Italian ‘to talk’, it&#8217;s a form of slang most commonly associated with gay men, used more widely during the days when male homosexuality was against the law.</p>
<p>The language itself has diverse origins – a combination of Italian and Romantic roots, Romany, backslang (saying things backwards), Yiddish, Cockney, and other street and sailor slang, mostly from London.</p>
<blockquote><p>The point of Polari was, largely, to avoid the law knowing what the hell you were talking about</p></blockquote>
<p>The point of Polari was, largely, to avoid the law knowing what the hell you were talking about or getting up to. And so to keep ahead of intelligence, the language was a constantly evolving thing, staying one step ahead. Many of the words have made their way into common parlance.</p>
<p>In 2021, Polari lives on as the inspiration for literary events and awards where the focus is very much on inclusivity. Polari is still relevant and part of our history. Although gay rights have come far in the UK, there is still a way to go.</p>
<h3>The origins of Polari</h3>
<p>The origins are complex. At various times, circus folk, sailors, Romany gypsies and other social outsiders spoke Polari, but it’s most commonly associated with gay men. In the 1960s, it was popularised by Kenneth Williams and Hugh Paddick as camp comedy couple Julian and Sandy on the BBC radio show Round the Horne. Their conversation was laced with sexual innuendo and made regular use of Polari.</p>
<p>They used slang like ‘bona lallies’, which means ‘nice legs’, and ‘dolly eke’, which means ‘handsome face’, in a knowing way that many gay listeners of the time would have recognised.</p>
<p>Other cultural icons using Polari</p>
<p>When David Bowie launched his Ziggy Stardust character and album in 1972, he gave a famous interview to <a href="https://www.bowiebible.com/1972/01/22/bowie-im-gay-and-always-have-been/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Melody Maker</a>. He camped it up outrageously, claimed he was gay and spoke in Polari to prove his queer credentials; despite being married with a child. His final album <em>Blackstar</em> also contains elements of Polari on the track Girl Loves Me.</p>
<h3>Polari was vital to the gay community until very recently</h3>
<p>Polari is sometimes referred to as ‘the lost language of gay men’. It was most popular after WWII and before the 1967 Sexual Offences Act, when male homosexuality was against the law.</p>
<blockquote><p>You could be fired from your job or refused accommodation simply for being gay.</p></blockquote>
<p>Thousands of gay and bisexual men were imprisoned for consensual sex acts. Men used Polari as a coded way of communicating with each other at a time when being openly homosexual carried the risk of arrest.</p>
<p>There are words that have made it into common parlance, used to this day. Like ‘naff’, which originally meant ‘straight’ or ‘Not Available For Fucking’.</p>
<h3>The 1967 Sexual Offences Act was a watershed moment, but&#8230;</h3>
<p>Contrary to popular belief, the act didn’t actually make gay sex legal. It only decriminalised it under certain circumstances. The age of consent for gay men was set at 21, compared to 16 for heterosexuals. Homosexual acts were tolerated, providing they took place in private and no more than two people were present.</p>
<p>The freedom that straight people take for granted weren’t afforded to us. If a nosy neighbour spotted two men kissing &#8211; inside their own home &#8211; and reported them to the police, they could be charged with a public disorder offence. You could be fired from your job or refused accommodation simply for being gay.</p>
<p>It’s worth remembering that this remained the case until a mere 20 years ago. Public displays of affection could, and often did, still lead to arrest.</p>
<p><img decoding="async" class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-3947" src="https://silvermagazine.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Forbidden-love-gave-rise-to-Polari-article-Silver-Magazine-www.silvermagazine.co_.uk_.jpg" alt="Forbidden love gave rise to Polari article Silver Magazine www.silvermagazine.co.uk" width="1200" height="1213" srcset="https://silvermagazine.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Forbidden-love-gave-rise-to-Polari-article-Silver-Magazine-www.silvermagazine.co_.uk_.jpg 1200w, https://silvermagazine.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Forbidden-love-gave-rise-to-Polari-article-Silver-Magazine-www.silvermagazine.co_.uk_-297x300.jpg 297w, https://silvermagazine.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Forbidden-love-gave-rise-to-Polari-article-Silver-Magazine-www.silvermagazine.co_.uk_-1013x1024.jpg 1013w, https://silvermagazine.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Forbidden-love-gave-rise-to-Polari-article-Silver-Magazine-www.silvermagazine.co_.uk_-768x776.jpg 768w" sizes="(max-width: 1200px) 100vw, 1200px" /></p>
<p>Astonishingly, the specifically gay crime of ‘gross indecency’, for which Oscar Wilde was imprisoned more than a century ago, remained in law until as recently as 2003. These days we have an equal age of consent, partnership rights and employment rights. All of these things were unthinkable back in 1967.</p>
<h3>It is easier to be a gay man in the UK today, but again&#8230;</h3>
<p>A lot might have changed since 1967, but homophobia hasn’t gone away. It still isn’t safe to walk the streets holding your partner’s hand, or look a certain way. There’s always an element of risk involved.</p>
<p>In the last year there’ve been violent homophobic attacks on gay men in Birmingham, Edinburgh, Manchester, Liverpool, and London. A friend of mine was attacked in Brighton. I’ve been assaulted many times in London. It’s easier now than it used to be but it’s still far from ideal.</p>
<h3>It’s always been harder for lesbians</h3>
<p>They weren’t criminalised the way gay men were, but they did face persecution and were often invisible in a way gay men weren’t. And the notorious Section 28 affected lesbians just as much as gay men, by describing relationships as ‘pretended family relationships’ and making any discussion of our lives during sex education lessons unlawful.</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8230;it’s important for gay men to support our lesbian sisters, just as they supported us during the AIDS crisis</p></blockquote>
<p>Many young people who grew up lesbian or gay were taught that it was shameful.</p>
<p>Lesbians were at the forefront of the fight against Section 28 and heavily involved in AIDS activism &#8211; a fact often glossed over or forgotten. As women, lesbians are doubly oppressed as they also don’t enjoy male privilege. And misogyny and sexism aren’t the exclusive preserve of straight men; some gay men can be just as bad.</p>
<p>These days, there are very few lesbian-only social spaces left. And sadly disputes between some sections of the lesbian community and some trans activists have led to a lot of animosity and division.</p>
<p>I fully support trans rights. And I also think it’s important for gay men to support our lesbian sisters, just as they supported us during the AIDS crisis. In fact, I consider it my moral duty.</p>
<h3>I celebrate Polari to keep history alive</h3>
<p>I created a live event, a literary salon, to help celebrate and explore the language. <em>Polari</em> is a live showcase for LGBTQ literary talent. It started in 2007 in Soho, London, and grew quickly. We’re currently based at the Southbank Centre, and tour regularly, thanks to Arts Council funding.</p>
<p>I think of it as a cabaret or variety show in which all the acts are writers of one kind or another – authors, poets, spoken word performers. It’s very diverse and very inclusive. Everyone is welcome, regardless of gender or sexuality. And we run two book prizes, for debut and established LGBTQ writers; it’s the only such prize in the UK. And we’ve been touring the UK, as we have every year since 2014.</p>
<p>For more information about Polari events: <a href="http://www.polarisalon.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener">www.polarisalon.com</a></p>
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<h1>Polari words still in common parlance…</h1>
<p><em><strong>Bevvy:</strong></em> drink<br />
<em><strong>Bijou:</strong> </em>small<br />
<em><strong>Butch:</strong></em> masculine; masculine lesbian<br />
<em><strong>Camp:</strong></em> effeminate (origin: kamp = known as male prostitute)<br />
<em><strong>Carsey:</strong></em> toilet, also spelt khazi<br />
<em><strong>Crimper:</strong></em> hairdresser<br />
<em><strong>Dish:</strong></em> an attractive male; buttocks<br />
<em><strong>Dizzy:</strong></em> scatterbrained<br />
<em><strong>Drag:</strong></em> clothes, especially women&#8217;s clothes<br />
<em><strong>Fruit:</strong></em> queen<br />
<em><strong>Mince:</strong></em> walk (affectedly)<br />
<em><strong>Naff:</strong></em> bad, drab<br />
<em><strong>Scarper:</strong></em> to run off<br />
<em><strong>Scotch:</strong></em> leg (scotch peg)<br />
<em><strong>Slap:</strong></em> makeup<br />
<em><strong>Trade:</strong></em> sex<br />
<em><strong>Troll:</strong></em> to walk about (especially looking for trade)</p>
<div class="saboxplugin-wrap" itemtype="http://schema.org/Person" itemscope itemprop="author"><div class="saboxplugin-tab"><div class="saboxplugin-gravatar"><img decoding="async" src="https://silvermagazine.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Paul-Burston-photo-by-Krystyna-FitzGerald-Morris.png" width="100"  height="100" alt="Paul Burston author on Silver Magazine" itemprop="image"></div><div class="saboxplugin-authorname"><a href="https://silvermagazine.co.uk/author/paulburston" class="vcard author" rel="author"><span class="fn">Paul Burston</span></a></div><div class="saboxplugin-desc"><div itemprop="description"><p><em>Author of six novels including </em>The Closer I Get<em>. Memoir </em>We Can Be Heroes<em> published June 2023. Founder of Polari literary salon and the Polari Book Prize for LGBTQ+ writing. Born in York, raised in Wales, now based in London and Hastings.</em></p>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Just like Mel B and Geri, married 52-year-old mother-of-two Sarah from Bristol spiced up her sex life by experimenting with some same-sex sizzle. For her it was just a bit of fun, and for women it&#8217;s not uncommon practice &#8211; they are significantly more likely to &#8216;try it out&#8217; or possibly even identify as bisexual. But for the lesbians who get toyed with by the women who are just experimenting it’s no laughing matter, as Londoner Esta, 57, will tell you. SARAH When Mel B confessed that she’d slept with bandmate Geri Halliwell at the height of their fame I wasn’t surprised. After all, studies show a quarter of straight women indulge in a little girl-on-girl action at least once in their life. But I was jealous, even though I have a husband and two children. Geri is just my type, petite with a huge personality – and reminds me of the woman I risked my marriage for. It was just for one night, but it was incredible. Deborah and I had been friends for a while after I started a new job as a legal secretary. It wasn’t exactly thrilling – my male boss was a bully and the [...]</p>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2>Just like Mel B and Geri, married 52-year-old mother-of-two Sarah from Bristol spiced up her sex life by experimenting with some same-sex sizzle.</h2>
<p>For her it was just a bit of fun, and for women it&#8217;s not uncommon practice &#8211; they are significantly more likely to &#8216;try it out&#8217; or possibly even identify as bisexual. But for the lesbians who get toyed with by the women who are just experimenting it’s no laughing matter, as Londoner Esta, 57, will tell you.</p>
<h2>SARAH</h2>
<p>When Mel B confessed that she’d slept with bandmate Geri Halliwell at the height of their fame I wasn’t surprised. After all, studies show a quarter of straight women indulge in a little girl-on-girl action at least once in their life.</p>
<p>But I was jealous, even though I have a husband and two children. Geri is just my type, petite with a huge personality – and reminds me of the woman I risked my marriage for.</p>
<p>It was just for one night, but it was incredible. Deborah and I had been friends for a while after I started a new job as a legal secretary. It wasn’t exactly thrilling – my male boss was a bully and the workload was enormous. The office atmosphere was very subdued but then Deborah, a paralegal, befriended me and we started going for lunches and nights out.</p>
<blockquote><p>She was beautiful, with long red hair, younger than me, and very outgoing. She made me laugh and then, in the middle of a very boozy bar session, she told me she was a lesbian</p></blockquote>
<p>She was beautiful, with long red hair, younger than me, and very outgoing. She made me laugh and then, in the middle of a very boozy bar session, she told me she was a lesbian. I think she expected me to be shocked. I was married, almost 50, and had two teenage children, but I didn’t care. Who she slept with was her business.</p>
<p>Except I did begin to see her in a different way. I wasn’t repulsed. Far from it – I began fantasising about Deborah. She was sexy, but it wasn’t just that. She represented excitement – an escape away from the humdrum everyday existence as a wife and a mother. I’d been doing that for decades. I yearned to be free in the same hedonistic way that Deborah was. No ties. No restraint. No guilt.</p>
<blockquote><p>I began to flirt with her after a few drinks on nights out. I dressed up for her the way I’d once glammed up for my husband</p></blockquote>
<p>So I began to flirt with her after a few drinks on nights out, dressing up for her the way I’d once glammed up for my husband. When I was near her, I felt my pulse throbbing in my temples, so when she kissed me in a nightclub one night I kissed her back, harder.</p>
<p>I’d even made an excuse hoping this would happen. ‘I’m going to crash at Deborah’s,’ I texted my husband. ‘I’ve had too many drinks with the girls. Will be back early tomorrow.’ He didn’t mind. ‘Have a great time,’ he wrote back. I hardly ever went out, so he was glad I’d found such a good friend.</p>
<p>Deborah smiled when I told what I’d done – and called a cab. The sex was the best I’ve ever had. The orgasms were stronger, longer and there were plenty of them. I’ve always struggled to come with my husband, and never before experienced anything like the intensity I did with Deborah.</p>
<p>It was so good I slept with her once more, but guilt began to prickle, and I realised it couldn’t carry on. I wasn’t a lesbian. I didn’t love her. It was just mind-blowing sex.</p>
<p>I never told my husband and I stayed friends with Deborah. She wanted to carry on, but I couldn’t leave my children or my husband for her, so what was the point?</p>
<blockquote><p>Read: <a href="https://silvermagazine.co.uk/online-dating-made-it-easier-to-cheat" target="_blank" rel="noopener">those in their 50s and 60s were most likely of all the age groups to cheat</a></p></blockquote>
<p>We’re still friends now, but we don’t work together anymore. She left for a promotion so it’s just Facebook contact now and again. Like Mel B, I don’t regret my encounter with my friend, but it was just a one-off that finished as soon as it had begun. It was just a wild fantasy that I was in the position to make reality.</p>
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<h2>ESTA</h2>
<p>I‘m sick of straight women treating lesbians as playthings. Straight women think they can have it all: a conventional marriage, kids and a fantastic but secret sex life with a woman whenever they want it. They don’t see how hurtful their deceit is or how heart-breaking it is to treat us as playthings.</p>
<blockquote><p>I end up being used by straight women who think dabbling is a thrilling sexual adventure with no strings attached</p></blockquote>
<p>Being a lesbian doesn’t mean not having any feelings, but I’ve learnt to be tough otherwise I end up being used by straight women who think dabbling is a thrilling sexual adventure with no strings attached. I can’t tell you how many straight women have come onto me, especially when they’re drunk. I’ve had to be ‘chivalrous’ and get them in a cab home, but it’s been hard if they’re hot.</p>
<p>I’ve always been gay, but lots of women’s sexuality is fluid, and we’re targeted by straight women who want to experiment.</p>
<p>When I was younger I had my heart broken by a woman I fell in love with. I thought she felt the same way but then I came home from work early and found her in my bed with a man. Another time I even shared my girlfriend with a man, but she gave into convention to get married and have children.</p>
<blockquote><p>I think Mel B was wrong to confess she’d slept with Geri. It was a private moment between friends that should have stayed secret</p></blockquote>
<p>All my lovers have always said they have more orgasms with me than with men. But it still hurt when they left. I’ve now been in a relationship for 15 years and would never look at another woman.</p>
<p>I think Mel B was wrong to confess she’d slept with Geri. It was a private moment between friends that should have stayed secret. What happens on tour stays on tour, especially between women.</p>
<h2>Girl Power: same-sex encounters are becoming more popular</h2>
<ul>
<li>A study of 2,000 British women by Onepoll discovered a quarter of straight women say they’ve had a sexual encounter with a woman</li>
<li>The percentage of women reporting same sex experiences has doubled since 1972</li>
<li>A 2017 study by the Kinsey Institute in America discovered lesbians reported orgasming 86 percent of the time during sex as opposed to 65 percent for straight women</li>
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<p><em>As told to Karen Pasquali Jones</em></p>
<div class="saboxplugin-wrap" itemtype="http://schema.org/Person" itemscope itemprop="author"><div class="saboxplugin-tab"><div class="saboxplugin-gravatar"><img alt='Karen Pasquali Jones' src='https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/dd1fe6c9627284716b241d428da9bb61269a2b8d2a0652f28fd3c136ebaa8837?s=100&#038;d=mm&#038;r=g' srcset='https://secure.gravatar.com/avatar/dd1fe6c9627284716b241d428da9bb61269a2b8d2a0652f28fd3c136ebaa8837?s=200&#038;d=mm&#038;r=g 2x' class='avatar avatar-100 photo' height='100' width='100' itemprop="image"/></div><div class="saboxplugin-authorname"><a href="https://silvermagazine.co.uk/author/karenpj" class="vcard author" rel="author"><span class="fn">Karen Pasquali Jones</span></a></div><div class="saboxplugin-desc"><div itemprop="description"></div></div><div class="clearfix"></div></div></div><p>The post <a href="https://silvermagazine.co.uk/how-your-dabbles-can-leave-lesbians-heartbroken">Spicing up your life?! How your dabbles with girl crushes can leave lesbians heartbroken</a> appeared first on <a href="https://silvermagazine.co.uk">Silver Magazine</a>.</p>
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