Getting engaged is a moment to be cherished, so before you dive headfirst into wedding planning, take a little time to enjoy it.

Celebrate, share the news, and soak up the joy before moving on to the logistics. Once the initial excitement settles, it’s time to shape your vision for the big day. Even with careful planning, unexpected hiccups can arise. But rather than stressing over unlikely disasters, focus on avoiding common missteps. Here are some of the biggest wedding mistakes to sidestep for a smooth and stylish celebration.

Not putting yourself first

Planning a wedding comes with a long list of decisions, and it’s easy to get caught up in pleasing everyone else. But remember, this is your day. Whether you’re planning an intimate gathering or a grand affair, make choices that reflect your style and values.

If you’re handling much of the planning yourself, investing in a well-structured wedding planner can be a lifesaver. Books like The Knot Ultimate Wedding Planner, How to Be Married by Jo Piazza, and Martha Stewart Weddings offer great inspiration and practical advice. Digital tools are useful, but there’s something reassuring about having everything in one well-organised book.

Overspending on the wedding dress

Even today the wedding dress is still a huge focus for your wedding. A wedding outfit should make you feel confident and elegant, but it doesn’t have to break the bank. While it’s tempting to splurge on something breathtaking, it’s worth keeping in mind that your dress (or suit) is just one part of the day. A good rule of thumb is to allocate no more than 5% of your wedding budget to your attire, including alterations.

Think about versatility and longevity. Could you wear the outfit again, perhaps restyled for a different occasion? If you do want something truly special, consider vintage pieces, bespoke tailoring, or even a beautifully crafted two-piece that could become a treasured part of your wardrobe long after the big day.

Assuming traditions still apply

Once upon a time, it was assumed that the bride’s family would foot the bill, but these days, financial arrangements vary widely. Many couples contribute significantly, with parents often splitting costs or offering support where they can. The key is to have open and honest conversations early on.

Rather than making assumptions, approach the topic sensitively and establish a clear plan. Knowing who is contributing what will prevent any misunderstandings and ensure that no one is left feeling awkward. Or stretched beyond their means.

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Including registry details on invitations

Another wedding mistake. It might seem practical to include wedding gift details with your invitations, but etiquette suggests otherwise. Word of mouth is a much more refined approach—close family and members of the wedding party can discreetly share registry information when asked.

Alternatively, many couples now opt for a wedding website where guests can find all the details, from gift preferences to accommodation suggestions. Just be mindful about sharing it on social media—if you haven’t invited everyone who follows you, it can lead to unintended awkwardness.

Being too prescriptive with the dress code

A little guidance on attire is helpful, but an exhaustive list of rules can come across as overly rigid. Instead of dictating what guests must wear, provide gentle suggestions that set the tone for the event. If your wedding is black tie, cocktail, or garden-party chic, a simple note on the invitation will do.

When it comes to your bridal party, flexibility is key. Rather than insisting bridesmaids wear identical outfits, consider allowing them to choose styles that flatter them within a cohesive colour palette. The result? A far more comfortable and confident wedding party—and more natural, stylish photographs.

As for the mother of the bride, tradition suggests her outfit should complement (rather than match) the bridal party’s theme. A sophisticated dress, an elegant, tailored suit, or even a statement coat can all be wonderful options. However, certain colours such as white, ivory, or champagne are best avoided to ensure all eyes stay on the bride.

Not having a weather contingency plan

Even if your wedding is planned for the height of summer, never underestimate the unpredictability of the British weather. Sudden showers, unexpected winds, or an unseasonal chill can all impact the day.

Regardless of the forecast, always have a backup plan. If you’re hosting an outdoor event, check that your venue has covered options, and consider practical yet stylish solutions like elegant wraps for guests or a well-placed stash of umbrellas. A little forward planning can mean the difference between a minor inconvenience and a major disruption.

Avoid these wedding mistakes

Planning a wedding inevitably comes with its challenges, but the key is to stay focused on what really matters—celebrating your love and sharing the day with those closest to you.

There will always be unexpected moments, but worrying too much can take away from the joy of the process. Be prepared, be flexible, and most importantly, enjoy every second of your special day.