It’s never an easy conversation, but it is important…

Having difficult conversations with loved ones is no one’s favourite thing to do, but they are necessary. As you get older, thinking about how you want your twilight years to go is unavoidable. By having conversations about end-of-life care, you can make sure that your loved ones are aware of your wishes and can make sure they are enacted.

Here are some things to think about before you broach the topic.

Understanding end-of-life care options

Care at the end of your life can come in many different forms so it is important to be informed about your options.

There are three main types of care: palliative, hospice and home-based. Palliative care typically takes place in a hospital with a specialist team that aims to manage any pain and other symptoms as well as make your life as comfortable as possible.
Hospices are dedicated spaces that aren’t as clinical as hospitals for people nearing the end of their lives. They are designed for shorter-term stays, but they are incredibly kind and caring spaces.

End-of-life care can be given at home when suitable. You may have adaptations made to your home to make it as easy as possible for you, as well as having medical staff visit multiple times a day to look after you.

Initiating the conversation with sensitivity

Having a conversation with loved ones about your wishes can feel daunting. Discussing your mortality isn’t something you will ever want to do, but it is necessary.

It is important to remain empathetic to their feelings. Your loved ones may feel incredibly upset or awkward about it all. Try to keep the conversation open and honest, answering as many questions as possible.

If you are broaching the subject with an elderly relative, try to warn them that you want to talk about it. It may take a few different conversations before you fully understand each other.

Legal considerations and advance care planning

Organizing your affairs is always a good idea in case you become unable to do so later in life. There are several things you should do to protect your assets and interests.

Appoint a lasting power of attorney. This means that your nominee will be able to make decisions for you surrounding your care, health and finances. Make sure you file your application with the Office of the Public Guardian.

If you feel unsure about anything, consult with lawyers who specialise in elder law. They will be able to guide you through the different processes.

Accessing support services and resources

There are plenty of services available to support both you and your family through end-of-life care. You could seek out local respite services to give your family a break from caring for you as well as to get you out of the house and meet different people.

Counselling services are also beneficial for anyone struggling with the reality of reaching their last few years as well as their family members.